Let go of the pocket full of gold stars that you’ve been desperately collecting your whole life, dear darling. You are enough. Let them fall behind you like a trail of golden glitter so that those who want to find you, know you, and love you- have a path to lead them to you.
Your need to be appreciated is normal: you’ve spent a lot of time focused on being a good person, a good partner, a good employee, a good member of your community. You’ve expended energy to prove to people that you deserve to be loved and appreciated. But let go, dear love, the gold stars which you’re afforded when someone recognizes your worth just weigh down your pockets. Instead put love in your heart and your actions and it will be reciprocated. Love is free of weight and space, so you can never have too much or give too much.
In the moments of your lowest when you just need so badly for someone to recognize your goodness, your kindness, your compassion, your existence: you’re enough already. No one can ever tell you as many times as you’ll need to be told, that you are enough. So learn to say it yourself. You are wonderful.
Many people will do an incredible job of loving you but no one can love you like you can. Don’t worry that you haven’t figured it out yet, it comes slowly and only with mindfulness. Loving yourself doesn’t always come easily, certainly not.
Sometimes you’ll look in the mirror and it’ll disappoint you for the simplest of reasons. It’s okay, give yourself a break. Other times your reflection will make you want to scream at the top of your lungs for everyone else to look too, because you’re beautiful and everyone should appreciate your beauty! Put that feeling into your heart and draw on it when you need, because your beauty is always there whether you see it or not.
You are enough, dear love. You have loved with your whole heart and been loved equally without restraint. Don’t be stingy with the love that you put into the world, it always comes back in time. Say the compliments that cross your mind, you’re likely to put a smile on someone’s face. Do things for people because it feels good, not because you’re benefiting from it later. Be the best person that you can be, every moment of every day.
Be kind and have compassion, it’s true what they say about everyone fighting a tough battle. Don’t expect perfection from yourself or anyone else, we all make mistakes that hurt feelings and cause disappointment. Ask for forgiveness and give forgiveness for simple misunderstandings.
Check in with yourself often. Is what you’re doing benefiting your heart? Don’t be afraid to take time off from social occasions to come back to yourself. You’re enough on your best day, you’re enough on your worst day. Continue to be kind to yourself and others.
Love yourself wildly and unapologetically, and give others the freedom and acceptance to do the same.